How do I survive the two week wait is such an important question that some mamas to be need answered.
This question is so personal to me and I want to give a trigger warning that my personal experience may be a difficult read for some.
My personal experience
I suffered a really tragic miscarriage three days after starting a new job. It was traumatizing and stressful to say the least. I don’t want to go into details but I had to be hospitalized for a day since my body wasn’t passing all the tissue naturally. My husband was also on an international business trip at the time. For whatever reason, the nurse at the hospital told me it wasn’t a good idea or me to call a friend or family member to be with me.
Not only did I feel like I had gotten off on the wrong foot with my job (who misses work when they just start a job?), but I was alone and I just kept wondering, will I ever get pregnant? Each two week wait I endured felt like torture.
Did I mention that at my new job, I worked in the same building as the labor and delivery unit? It was hard. Probably one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through, second to not being able to hold my daughter for two weeks after she was born. Not only did I lose my baby but months went by and I wondered when it was going to be my turn, all while watching new moms and their newborns being wheeled out of the hospital.
I dealt with all of this in a really unhealthy way to be honest. I became obsessed with tracking my period and ovulation. I was desperate to get pregnant. Each two week wait I went through (and I went through a lot of them) was awful until I faced the music and decided to do something about it. I decided to become more positive about my two week waits instead of obsessive and unhealthy.
So, I wanted to answer the question for the other waiting mamas out there. How do I survive the two week wait? I have great news, it isn’t all doom and gloom! There are some great things you can do to make this dreaded waiting period go better.
Wait to test
It can be so tempting to test early. You just want to know! You won’t have an accurate answer until closer to your missed period. So put the pregnancy test down (yes, even the early ones since they aren’t always as accurate). You might be disappointed when you get a false negative or you might go through twenty tests for no reason.
Log out of social media
Social media can be hard to mindlessly enjoy while you’re waiting on your turn to get pregnant. It seems like all of a sudden everyone is announcing that they’re expecting or posting pictures of their cute babies. Your old coworker you haven’t talked to in years? Yup, she’s pregnant. Your mom’s friend, yup, her daughter is pregnant. Everyone is pregnant. It’s a tough pill to swallow.
It’s totally fine to take a break from social media to calm your nerves. The waiting can feel like an emotional roller coaster at times.
During my two week waits (there were a lot of them) I opted to play Scrabble using the Scrabble app or to read e-books through the Libby app. If you haven’t yet checked out my post on how to get free e-books and audiobooks, you should! Reading books during my free time and listening to audiobooks on my commute to work really helped to keep my mind off of things and stay positive.
Someone else’s gain does not mean your loss
This is the single best piece of advice I got when I was waiting to get pregnant with my first child. Someone else getting pregnant does not in any way take away from you getting pregnant. It doesn’t mean that you have to go to every baby shower or be the first to visit a new baby and mom.
Sometimes it’s OK to avoid those things until you get to a better place. I know that at first it was really hard on me to even see a mom and baby any where. I really do think this mantra will help you get a better place and be able to be happy for others during this time.
Go on a date with your partner
Connecting with your partner or spouse is so important during this time. Let your spouse help you through this time and also spend some quality time together. You won’t always feel like going out while pregnant. Also, when you have a baby you won’t exactly be able to go any where fancy for awhile unless you have a babysitter. So, enjoy it! Go to that cute and trendy restaurant you’ve been dying to try or out for a stroll and ice cream.
Work on your finances
OK, I’m not saying you need to be rich or anything but it doesn’t hurt to have all your financial ducks in a row before having a baby. Babies are expensive! It’s a good idea to get into good financial health and work on growing your savings account before starting a family.
We started cracking down on our miscellaneous expenses and decided the longer it took to get pregnant the more we would save in case we needed to pursue other options. Luckily, we were able to get pregnant without any intervention but it was a good safety net for us.
Make space for your baby
I swear this worked for me as kooky as it sounds. Maybe I sound like one of those manifestation experts you may or may not agree with but it works! Start clearing out the room where your baby would be.
I cleaned our our guest room and my closet too. I sold a lot of items on Facebook marketplace as well as Poshmark. Poshmark is a great way to make some extra money and stay busy too. You can also check out my Poshmark tips here. You may want to download the app to buy some inexpensive maternity clothes for when you become pregnant!
Keep your mind off of it
I know that it is really hard to keep your mind off of the two week wait obsession but you should try. Find a good show on Netflix or try a new craft project out. Staying busy will help keep your mind off of it and your two week wait will fly by!
I visited Israel a few weeks before I found out I was pregnant with my son. I left a prayer in the Western Wall (also called the Wailing Wall). I truly believe in the power of prayer and I believe that whoever prayed over my note helped God answer my prayer.
When we got back from our trip I had another two week wait to endure but I was much more at peace. I had given a lot to God during our trip. It had been amazing to see the places Jesus had been. I had grown a lot stronger spiritually.
Of course you don’t need to travel to Israel to pray. Just spend time with God and in his word. He hears his children’s prayers and answers them.
Are you currently in the midst of a two week wait? Or have you been through the two week wait before? Share your tips for others on how to survive the two week wait below!
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